Sarpy County officials, parents gather to address teen suicide
By: Bethany Fischer, Times Staff Writer
11/23/2008
“You don’t need to be your kids’ friends; you need to be their parents,” Dr. Scott Poland told 300-plus parents and community members on Monday night.
Poland, an associate professor at Nova Southeastern University of Florida and a nationally-recognized speaker on youth suicide, was in Papillion Nov. 17 to speak to community members as part of the newly-formed suicide task force.
In the morning, Poland spoke to officials from judicial systems, schools and law enforcement throughout Sarpy County for two hours at the Papillion-La Vista School District office, said Annette Eyman, communications director for PLSD. The event is a response to a rise in teen suicides; 11 Sarpy County teens have died by suicide in the past three years.
After speaking to the group collectively, Poland held breakout sessions with the separate agencies. During the breakout sessions, Poland both gave and gathered information, Eyman said.
Parents filled the room to capacity at the public meeting at 7 p.m. as Poland spoke on safeguarding children, preventing tragedies and building resiliency in today’s world.
During the session, Poland gave parents recommendations on how to stay connected to their children. Bring back the family meal, don’t let technology steal your child, avoid setting up their room up to be a kingdom and know where your child is and who their friends and friends’ parents are, he said.
In his research, Poland said he has found that children and teens often say they want their parents and teachers more involved.
All suicides, the third-leading cause of death for teens, cannot be prevented, but most can, he said.
“Parents should always model optimism and hope for the future,” Poland said.
Other advice included:
* “Love them for who they are and not who they will become”
* Stop looking the other way with teenage drinking
* Don’t give praise only when you’re in a good mood
* Pay attention to what children are watching on television
* “Your happiness cannot depend on your child’s happiness with you”
Eyman said parents were very receptive to the meeting.
“I think (the) night’s turnout was a huge success. I know Dr. (Rick) Black got a lot of feedback,” she said. “We got e-mails from a variety of parents – they’ve all been very supportive and very thankful.”
Monday was just the beginning, Eyman said.
“Now the next step will be to develop, what are our action plans as a community? One of the biggest issues and concerns that we heard was just for better communication between all of the different agencies,” Eyman said.
Now, the task force will begin working on countywide protocol.
The questions the task force is asking are “How will we deal with students who are having problems? How do we support those students and their families? And not only we as a school district, but we as a community, as a whole?” Eyman said.
Specifically for PLSD, the school district is bringing Poland back in December for some more training with school staff.
“We’re going to do intense training with all of our staff as well as (ask) what things do we need to do to strengthen the prevention procedures we have in place.” Eyman said.
-This report contains information from Midlands News Service